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Friday, March 1, 2019

My Extraordinary Trip to the SUN- What on Earth is Happening!?



My Extraordinary Trip to the

SUN



WHAT'S HAPPENING?

Harmful algae blooms, which produce a toxic acid, have been reported along the Southern California coast recently.

* (Gamma Ray Increase link)

https://www.sfgate.com/whales-sharks/article/dead-dolphins-washing-up-huntington-newport-beach-13646150.php

During the last solar minimum, from 2008 to 2009, Fermi detected eight high-energy gamma rays (each with energies greater than 100 giga–electron volts, or GeV) emitted by the sun. But over the next eight years, as solar activity built to a peak and then regressed back toward quiescence, the sun emitted no high-energy gamma rays at all. The chances of that occurring at random, Linden says, are extremely low. Most likely the gamma rays are triggered by some aspect of the sun’s activity cycle, but the details remain unclear.

The Sun Is Spitting Out Strange Patterns of Gamma Rays—and No One Knows Why


Randy Jokipii, a retired astronomer from the University of Arizona who was not involved in the study, it is no surprise high-energy gamma rays are more likely to be emitted during solar minimum.

It seems the scientist cautiously admit that the SUN plays a role on Earth stating: [The solar cycle also plays a minor role in climate, as variations in irradiance can cause slight changes in average sea-surface temperatures and precipitation patterns.]
The question now is are the gama raise of the sun penetrating earth's crust heating up the soft lava core, and that these are producing seismic unrest in earthquakes and volcanoes that we are seeing all over the earth waking up now?



The 2011 earthquake off the Pacific coast of Tōhoku was a magnitude 9.0–9.1 undersea megathrust earthquake off the coast of Japan that occurred at 14:46 JST on Friday 11 March 2011.








LATEST ESRTHQUAKE REPORT
March 1,2019 another 7.0 and greater strikes South America.
DutchSince provides a glimpse of this as we head into the 8 year anniversary of Japan's Super 9.3 Earthquake.

https://youtu.be/O1V7n5CEKPM

One other Note here is the question I had come to mind of just how close we have ever come to the Sun and what our scientist actually know about it?

NASA IS MYSTIFIED


[We see it every day, but our sun still poses countless mysteries.]

[On Saturday (Aug. 11), that will begin to change, as NASA launches its Parker Solar Probe, the first mission ever to get up close and personal with our star. At its closest approach, the spacecraft will fly less than 4 million miles (6 million kilometers) above the surface of the sun, directly through its blazing-hot atmosphere.]

[August 09 2018 [ Right now, the sun is pretty quiet, nearing the minimum-activity level of its 11-year cycle. But in a few years, that will change, with the sun's activity picking up speed again. And the team behind the Parker Solar Probe hopes our star will show off its full range of "moods", from tranquil to temperamental. The more different dynamics the probe can watch, the more scientists can learn about how our star really works.]
Parenthesis added "moods".
https://www.space.com/41424-parker-solar-probe-sun-science.html?fbclid=IwAR0UnCmE0HTYKgy-HtraTWGT1_xsSYPamKEblTFVmNNXtBC8wH06LsSwRg0

*Gamma Rays reference- https://www.scientificamerican.com/…/the-sun-is-spitting-o…/



It's been a few years, but this dream I had in prison was quite remarkable as I was taken on a Trip to the Sun.

One can only imagine the blazing hot nuclear explosions happening on the surface of a body that is said to be 10,000 Fahrenheit (5,600 Celsius). The temperature rises from the surface of the Sun inward towards the very hot center of the Sun where it reaches about27,000,000 Fahrenheit (15,000,000 Celsius)

The NASA Solar Parker Probe Spacecraft at it's closest  will fly less than 4 million miles (6 million kilometers) above the surface of the sun, directly through its blazing-hot atmosphere.

This was about the distance I was from the sun as I approached. It was incredible seeing all of the things you would normally expect to see. A blazing hot fireball with explosions of fiery gas happening in an all consuming huge, highly flammable, round sphere.

A truly amazing sight!

I kinda thought that my approach would stop there. Nothing else to see right? It didn't. It seemed my Guide had a different idea. We continued getting closer and closer.

It seemed at the speed we were traveling with only our persons being the vehicle of travel, that the gaseous circumvents on fire was hundreds of miles thick.

As we broke through this outer shell of flammable gas, an even more amazing site came to my eyes.
I begin to make out faces as I perceived them to be spirits. They were in a very happy state of being. That being was a state of consciousness that I can only described as Oneness with each other. It was truly a delightful and happy state literally millions of souls combined in to form what I'd describe to be the radiant celestial surface of the sun.

It was not an exaggeration to say it truly was a type of glory- a radiating happiness - a complete and continuous and desire fulfilling harmony. This was from my observance. They were many and definitely independent spirits. I noticed faces mostly. They as I related were independent meaning their eyes and gaze was not locked in any kind of synchronicity.

I did not notice that these were spirits that had received a body, not did I notice them as walking about engaged in any kind of independent projects as we might notice in observing a mall full of people. More closely, their engagement might be described as focused as a body of people watching the Super Bowl where the center of attention was the field, but you could still glance at the person sitting next to you.

Their faces were not focused in the center as a Stadium of People would be, but were definitely outward in focus towards my own observation point- None looked away.

My considerations are that these were pre-mortal spirit children who had not yet come to earth or received a body. Their attention was on the Father much as our own children's attention is largely focused on the adult parent. And my suspicion is that largely the same way a child focused on his or her parent would be, the 'mood' of the parent does affect the childs mood in a type of child-like mirrored affect.

We might say if a father was angry in front of an infant, the infant might get scared and cry. The same mirror of emotion might take place for every 'mood' the parent has. Of course, if the Parent were, let's say the mother or father were making googly eyes and funny gestures the child would smile. Again, similiar even to the discription NASA assigned it's report in the exploration of the SUN's 'moods from tranquil to temperamental'.

Again, Scientist admit: "The solar cycle also plays a minor role in climate, as variations in irradiance can cause slight changes in average sea-surface temperatures and precipitation patterns. Thus, a better understanding of the cycle’s physical drivers is important for sustainable living on Earth."

We certainly understand that no amount of carbon emitting from the surface of the Earth in what scientist would call Green House Gas Emissions is effecting the Sun's Surface, but what if men's actions on Earth towards say, "the Laws of Nature" became contemptuous making our Father-In-Heaven have a cow or become angry, and then that mood that the spirit children mirror that make up the Sun is changed?

Here we might even say is the patience of God with good reason to control his emotions understanding he's got a lot of unbreakable influence with the children who make up the Sun. We also in this line of reflection could understand, our actions reflected also in moods influence our own environment in a much greater synchronicity than we have ever thought before.

Now let us consider just a few scriptures with this line of thinking in mind, just for a minute.

John 8:12 Then spake Jesus again unto them, saying, I am the light of the world: he that followeth me shall not walk in darkness, but shall have the light of life.

Matthew 5:15 and Matthew 5:16 are the fifteenth and sixteenth verses of the fifth chapter of the Gospel of Matthew in the New Testament. They are part of the Sermon on the Mount, and is one of a series of metaphors often seen as adding to the Beatitudes. The previous verse compared the disciples to a city on a hill that can't be hidden and these verses present a similar analogy.

In the King James Version of the Bible the text reads:15: Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house.16: Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.
John 1:4 In him was life; and the life was the light of men.


Now the fourth act of creation is set here and it proceeded the first act of creation which was to make light.
Genesis 1:3 And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. Genesis 1:4 And God saw that the light was good. And God separated the light from the darkness. 

Genesis 1:14 And God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of the heaven to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs, and for seasons, and for days, and years:
When we think about these concepts it makes sense that God would create spirit children and then would create a place for them, doesn't it? It also makes sense that in that order of process the necessity of the earth comes into work in separating the children and creating the earth as a testing ground of the spirits as they kept their first estate and graduated to earth for the second estate or test of a physical body.

Jude 1:6 And the angels which kept not their first estate, but left their own habitation, he hath reserved in everlasting chains under darkness unto the judgment of the great day.

It's no leap of imagination to understand that if there is a "first estate" and it's recorded that there were those who kept it not, that the second estate or 'state of being' was a graduation present for those who kept the "first estate" and paid attention.

Today, I smiled in the reflection of this dream I recall, in NASA's story " And the team behind the Parker Solar Probe hopes our star will show off its full range of moods, from tranquil to temperamental.", because I could now understand that much more intelligently.

One of the things that was under way Politically in 2008 when the Sun was observed to be spitting out a great deal of gamma raise so was Barack Hussein Obama's usurpation of the Office of the President- arguably the highest and most powerful seat on earth in violation of the laws of nature, even mentioned in the United States Constitution.


The Founders DID NOT establish the Constitution for the purpose of granting rights. Rather, they established this government of laws (not a government of men) in order to secure each person's Creator endowed rights to life, liberty, and property. ... They called it "natural law," or "Nature's law."

Constitution Law of Nations

Congress has the power to “define and punish . . . Offences against the Law of Nations.”(I, 8, 10

Blog Post & Videos to watch NATURAL BORN CITIZEN

On the coins set below the [STONES] title or heading in the picture below, is the U.S. Supreme Court Case Minor v. Happersett which confirmed, and ALL constitutional Lawyers and Judges agree, that there was never any doubt that those who were born in the country to it's citizens were themselves 'natural born Citizens'.

In the following 2 minute video a great explanation is made to the very common man of what the meaning of natural born Citizen is an was- Born in the U.S. to Citizen Parents.

There is no native born citizenship from any other country which dictates soil. And there is no inherited foreign citizenship at the time of birth from either parent.








As a Constitution Republic nation, under God, indivisible, with liberty and justice for all, how can those who are considered members not expect a very disappointed "Lord" in the Constitution where in it is signed "  In Article VII, the Constitution states:

Done in Convention by the Unanimous Consent of the States present the Seventeenth Day of September in the Year of our Lord one thousand seven hundred and Eighty seven and of the Independence of the United States of America- 

and Creator in the Declaration of Independence- We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.

It is for every adult member who may be concerned with the real prospect of destruction to get right with God through a process called Repentance or suffer as if there was no redemption made for sins. The Lord didn't sacrifice himself for mockers and scorners or wickedness and evil.

 He sacrificed himself for the redemption of those who would repent, call upon his name in light, and obey his commandments or walk in his statutes. As the only Presidential Candidate in 2008, 2012, and 2016 who sued BOTH Sen. McCain and Sen. Obama for not being 'natural born Citizen's', and taking those to the U.S. Supreme Court 12-5276, 14-9396, 17-4055- Tenth Circuit (courtesy copy), I bear witness the Lord is capable of doing his work, but YOUR CHOICE is YOUR CHOICE.

The Lord gave that to you and you have or will make it. I urge you to repent as Noah did even until the doors of the arch were closed and it became to late and the inhabitants were drowned in the sea. Even as it was in the days of Sodom and Gomorrah were not even 10 righteous could be found, and Abraham, Lot, (save for his wife who looked back and turned into a pillar of salt), and their families escaped the rain of Fire and Brimstone that lead to total destruction.






Luke 17:26-30 King James Version (KJV)

26 And as it was in the days of Noe, so shall it be also in the days of the Son of man.

27 They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noah entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.

28 Likewise also as it was in the days of Lot; they did eat, they drank, they bought, they sold, they planted, they builded;

29 But the same day that Lot went out of Sodom it rained fire and brimstone from heaven, and destroyed them all.

30 Even thus shall it be in the day when the Son of man is revealed.

This is the Proposed Executive Order sent to Pres. Trump - personal attorneys - A.G, and others August 11, 2018
https://www.scribd.com/document/385974203/Proposed-Executive-Order-for-President-Donald-Trump-Defense-of-the-Office-of-the-President-Qualifications

For those interested it would be helpful Tweeting these links to @realdonaldtrump

https://twitter.com/CodyRobertJudy/status/1095444887187517441
https://twitter.com/CodyRobertJudy/status/1096566156964417536

It has been American's complicity-ampathy- and cold hardheartedness that the Lord is very upset about. It will cause that same judgment to come upon them the Lord reiterated in The Sermon on the Mount.
Matthew 7:2 
King James Version


[For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.]

 I will leave you with a Poem I wrote this morning called Muscrat Musing March.
Love and Peace to you and yours
CRJ







Tuesday, February 19, 2019

MONEY- TEST FROM GOD



MONEY- TEST FROM GOD

 ...He doesnt 'need' your money. What he gave you was a Test. How are you doing? 


Youtube: https://youtu.be/6YpeyOqq6zY
Blog:


The Lord doesn't need your Money, it's all his as the Creator of Earth and Heaven. God has given you Money as a Test. How are you doing? Being stingy with God isn't going to cut it.

Building up the Kingdom of God doesn't include contributing to luke warm churches. The churches have become polluted teaching false doctrines and using false lighting to light them up. The glory of God is not in them.

Make your contribution count in the judgement seat you will sit in alone one day when you are asked, "God gave all, what have you given toward the building up of the Kingdom. Notice the Lord's prayer says "Thy Kingdom Come", not "Thy Church Come"?

The Politics in the USA has manifested itself to be so corrupted. The Churches are also polluted with corruption. The Lord is asking you to come out of corruption and enter into his Glorious Rest.

His Glorious Rest is a Celestial Kingdom that he calls Zion. This is the light that will break forth among the Gentiles in the last day. What are you giving for the cause of Zion? It's a Choice for you Today.


References:
Matt. 17:27 ; 21:12; 25:18
Mark 6:8; 12:41
Luke 22:5

Isaiah 2:2-6

It shall come to pass in the latter days that the mountain of the house of the Lord shall be established as the highest of the mountains, and shall be lifted up above the hills; and all the nations shall flow to it, and many peoples shall come, and say: “Come, let us go up to the mountain of the Lord, to the house of the God of Jacob, that he may teach us his ways and that we may walk in his paths.” For out of Zion shall go the law, and the word of the Lord from Jerusalem. He shall judge between the nations, and shall decide disputes for many peoples; and they shall beat their swords into plowshares, and their spears into pruning hooks; nation shall not lift up sword against nation, neither shall they learn war anymore. O house of Jacob, come, let us walk in the light of the Lord. For you have rejected your people, the house of Jacob, because they are full of things from the east and of fortune-tellers like the Philistines, and they strike hands with the children of foreigners.

MONEY - TEST FROM GOD





Friday, February 15, 2019

Parameters Who are the Pharaohs of Today? Let my People Go!




Parameters  

Who are the Pharaohs of Today? Let my People Go!

Part I. https://youtu.be/cMiDa5_ZRU4
Part II. https://youtu.be/OXaiwsP3awA

Blog Post

Political & Church Leaders who have been corrupted are accounted as Pharaoh of Egypt. With the corruption of the Churches founded in Pride & Greed while the Political Class is voiding out the Supreme Law of the Land found in the [natural born Citizen] qualification for Office of the President, we can see that the People are slaves and followers of an evil corruption that is as necessary to purge as in the day of Moses's experience in Egypt.

"Who is the Lord that we should Obey him" said Pharaoh of Egypt which quickly lead to a succession of plagues and evil the people had to suffer.

Why did the Lord do this and How does he cause a failure to come around a Parameter with his Mercy to the children in a great lesson of Pride for the political and evangelical leaders of today?

References

Exodus 5,6,7































































Saturday, February 9, 2019

Is God just Love? What is the Defense of God for Idol Worship-Money?





Is God just Love? 
What is the Defense of God for Idol Worship-Money?




Link: https://youtu.be/pxiNcmUD49w


Great Changes are in motion in the Defense of the United States. The US is purchasing the Iron Dome from Israel, but how do we cover all the territory of the US? China just renounced the "No Nuke First Policy". The US officially called off the agreement for Nuke disarmament and reduction with Russia. Iran has a new longer range nuke capable missile, and North Korea cancels a military parade were its nukes are visible. Can we count on Divine Intervention in the coming conflicts?
References:
Quote from President George Washington
President George Washington to John Armstrong March 11, 1792
I am sure there never was a people who had more reason to acknowledge a divine interposition in their affairs than those of the United States; and I should be pained to believe that they have forgotten that agency which was so often manifested during our Revolution—or that they failed to consider the omnipotence of that God who is alone able to protect them." GW

In partial reference to LTR of great Loss
[ an infatuating Security seemed to pervade the minds of all men amongst us, we pondered not sufficiently the nature & importance of the Object, our lips declared there was no danger—our Creeds announce the universal Superintendance of the Deity, that the events of time & things, are in his hands—we say the Shields that defend the earth, Solely belong to him—and yet on this Occasion we either forgot or impiously neglected him! and I confess myself one of the guilty number—there were no publick adresses made to God on this Occassion, and too probably, but few private ones either. hence it appears that he went not forth with our Army, but was in very deed against us—wisdom appeared to forsake the wise (or those that ought to have been so) and the men of might could not find their hands. whether this defect & others of a Similer nature, may be the radical cause of our misfortunes or not, is best known to God, but reflexion carries us to that quarter & strongly presents them in that view.

Proposed Executive Order
https://www.scribd.com/document/385974203/Proposed-Executive-Order-for-President-Donald-Trump-Defense-of-the-Office-of-the-President-Qualifications?fbclid=IwAR1CSkcnKXmLWb4gVRwOFghp1R6g_fX38zMM8GdQJvLDTVLIQiQM-VA2x6o




BLOOD MOON RISE'N
By The Cody Robert Judy Band



Tuesday, September 30, 2014

GO AWAY JESUS, YOUR JUST TOO CLOSE



GO AWAY JESUS, YOUR JUST TOO CLOSE

This morning as I was waking up contemplating some of the experiences of my own life over the long term and of late, I was struck with a thought that made my heart leap that one could call the ‘trickle down economics of love’ in the heart of a domestic crisis.

How many of us leave home mad at someone in our family? How many of us have been offended by a close friend and chose to simply break off the connection rather than deal with it employing the tools of forgiveness, mercy, and love?

How much easier is it to deal with people that live farther away who are also trying to employ what we call ‘unconditional love’? It’s a lofty term without any real roots. How realistic is it to say that you love Jesus and treat everyone outside the 100 mile boundary of your proximity with ‘unconditional love’, but as for those family members who have treated you ill and friends that have offended you, they can kiss your sweet behind?

In summarizing, how can you claim to love Jesus and hate your closest family or friend? Would Jesus love you and never say anything when it comes to you abusing money, sex, or substances without moderation? Jesus Christ had plenty to say about domestic abuse to yourself, to your family, and to your friends. How can you place higher in your circle of value foreigners than those friends and family who love you enough to say something?

Truth be told, the foreigner if he came into close proximity to you from his foreign position really doesn’t care about you, and would use you as an object of not very much affection, especially if he knows nothing of what your reality truly is.

The profound thought occurred that it truly is our families and friends in close proximity who provide us the greatest opportunities to improve, employ, and utilize all of the characteristics of forgiveness, mercy, and love which is what Jesus Christ taught. They in a sense are knocking at our door and are challenges we must open up for in order to use what Jesus has taught.

You can almost count on the fact that the challenges in your life won’t arise from some disturbed friend offending you on facebook 3,000 miles away. They do not see the crazy things you do at home. Oh, what do you mean? Well, like abusing substances to the point where your bodily functions are either malfunctioning or refusing to function or employing a silent sex trade with anyone that knocks on your door, or simply living in a pig sty. I always like to point here with a wink; Jesus lived in a “Garden” not a pig sty. (smile)

To your social media friends who you receive and give this ‘unconditional love’ from and to respectively, there is no concern for you in these matters. My heavens, you could drop over dead the next day or two and they’d protest and feign their sadness and move on to someone else who post pretty pictures, but your family and friends in close proximity would be attending your funeral and burying you. That’s real.

Recently a friend of mine, here in America, was bragging a little to me that most of (his/her) friends on social media were foreign in such a way that I got the distinct feeling (she/he) didn’t like Americans because of the way they acted or thought and much preferred foreigners. Well, my heart got a little sorrowful ache to it as I thought about the treatment to this person by those in close proximity, perhaps by family, perhaps close proximity friends, that had given them the idea that foreign friends were ideal and domestic friends were out to lunch. Indeed, maybe both perspectives could use some help.

Maybe the ones offended could try and employ a greater understanding that was said or done came from a loving foundation meant to stabilize. Maybe those dishing out the constructive criticism could temper or flower it a little so it wasn’t so harsh? In both circumstances, the words “I’m sorry” can be skillfully and truthfully employed as strength without embarrassment or a sign of weakness.

The inner or domestic circle was the uncomfortable one, and the outer or foreign circle was much more comfy. I thought about my own challenges with the exact same thing. It wasn’t that it was difficult to employ what Jesus Christ taught; it’s that you were called upon to employ it so often. (smile)

So it kind of dawned on me as something to recognize as I recall the picture of Jesus Christ knocking on your door with no door knob on the outside. We must invite him in and employ his teachings to those who are actually at our door; for what kind of reward do we have to get along with someone half way round the world we are holding in high esteem the value of their “unconditional love for us” while we spite, and under employ love to those in close proximity?

Jesus taught that we should pray for our enemies and love those who despitefully mistreat us so that our example would wreck their unhappy world. So that through our example our own domestic arena could be purified as we cleaned the inner vessel (inside) first and then tended to the outer vessel (outside) of our world.

Jesus certainly was experienced with strife within his own family, and his own friends teaching Mark 6:4; Luke 4:24; John 4:44 [Jesus himself testified] a prophet is not without honor save in his own country. How many many examples are there in scripture that tell a story of family strife and discord? So it is we must exert and exercise the muscles of ‘forgiveness’, ‘mercy’, and ‘love’ with those who are closest to us, as if we were facing the stair master, weight bar, or a distance to run, with no energy, slumped down looking at it as if it was a dragon to slay with our choice to either get on, or go home and forget about working out.

It seems that those who actually get on the exercise machine, grab hold of the bar, or finally just leap forward in taking that first stride of a 5K are the ones who return from their work out with a smile on their face. How much bigger of a smile will you have when you have employed that determination with those whom are closest to you that may have offended you in some way in what was a prod of love, or an encouragement they failed to understand was coming across as a ‘judgmental accusation’?

Of course we all make judgments we have to and that is not bad. Without them we might not ever feed ourselves. When we ‘judge righteously’ employing love in the greatest degree we can possibly think of our example is left behind as a teaspoon of sugar and that certainly helps the medicine go down. ‘Sparing the rod and spoiling the child’ certainly has applications of avoiding ‘domestic abuse’ if we consider our communications of love to be corrections that don’t necessarily sit well with us and judgment of others as an action. What we often forget is that corrections can be made, understood, and thus employed much better as we sprinkle it with ‘mercy’ of which we all need a big dose of.

Truly this has enormous implications world wide as we ask the question: How can we tend to foreign affairs and let our own domestic affairs crumble? The United States is not built by Governments it’s built by individuals. The world is not run by Governments but by individuals and it is right at Home that you can find the single best place to really improve the whole world.

God Bless you Americans to employ forgiveness, mercy, and love, so that you can bless the whole world!

Sincerely,
Cody Robert Judy
www.codyjudy.us
www.codyjudy.blogspot.com

P.S. Yesterday I did savored a little story here in picture.



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Friday, May 30, 2014

Little God Moments In Your Life- You can be the Angel God has Sent

Little God Moments In Your Life- You can be the Angel God has Sent.

One of the best things in life is showing up at just the right time for someone. Finding yourself prompted to move at just the right time. I find so much joy in this, as I’ve seen people show up at just the right time in my life and in turn done the same for others. My Mom always reminded us as kids, “God is the source and people his channels”.

It happens in the most innocent of ways and sometimes from the most unusual circumstances. Yesterday I woke up with a dream of my running on a pretty flat road or track; it dipped down a little in some places. I was thinking in my dream how nice it was to be able to take off in a sprint and really feel like you were flying through the gears as you reached a maximum speed.

I was having a hard time with that and couldn’t do it like I’d been able to so easily when I was younger and I kind of made a little dream-goal if you will to work on that in my dream. So yesterday I find myself resting a bit more then normal and eating Mac n Cheese for lunch. That’s a little unusual for me on the carbohydrate level.

My ex picked up our child in the hand-off and I thought you know I should go on a good run. I had looked at my dream through all the prisms of symbolism in the big general picture throughout the day, but I hadn’t actually gone out and hit the pavement for a couple of weeks. I think my last run was 4 miles a few weeks ago.

Determined to go out I got dressed in my jogging gear and decide to go by this house I’d seen on a real estate add as a fixer upper project I was entertaining. It took me on a different course than was my normal running course. I did my first full marathon run last year around July but after it was done and checked off the bucket list I had kind of waned a bit in training. The point is I did have some normal training runs that I was abandoning for reasons I didn’t understand fully.

I ran by and checked the house out a little and then continued on my way having for the first time a little reflection on my dream in which I saw “the track was a little flat”. Indeed it was I thought as the ups and down associated in my normal training course were not present in this run which was relatively flat.

I started thinking as I was running about where I should go or which track I should make and thought about the few times I’d missed seeing my ex at her house and the request of my son to stop by and see his bedroom. We have a very nice and amicable relationship now and my appearing wouldn’t be troubling.

I thought if I ran to my ex’s house that’s a little over seven miles away and back that would be a half marathon on the check list. No medal, but I lose 4,000 calories and it wouldn’t cost me $80 dollars like a marathon race would. I thought about the rock my son had recently given me at his pre-school graduation that said, “My Dad Rocks” and thought that’s the best medal I could ever have hope to have.

Haven’t run that long for awhile so I knew it would challenge me. I had done that route one other time about 2 years ago and had showed up to knock on the door only to find no one home. As I ran I thought that would be funny to see that happen again as I rounded the last block and saw her in the yard.

She was bent over in a hole at least an arm deep in the grass surrounded in mud with my son looking on. The expression on kids faces is so funny as you watch them looking and watching their parents do something they have no idea about. It’s like, what the heck is she doing digging holes? I don’t know but it looks pretty cool maybe I should have a go at this?

The root of the problem was a main line leak in the sprinkler system. Nothing she couldn’t handle but I teased her as I grabbed the shovel and said, “I don’t want to take the dream away you had of playing in the mud while replacing a main-line leak in your sprinkler system, but if you want I can help you?” She laughed and said “I appreciated that, and you’re right it wasn’t my dream”. I teased and said that my hands didn’t have a $25 dollar paint job on them.

Anyway, I reflected on pulling up from my jog at just the right time to help out. Lots of different routes to choose from but only one track had been run. You may have had the same type of experience. I know I sure have.

Real quickly one time I found myself spinning in circles on the freeway and flying off an embankment landing my front end in about 4 foot of cold icy water in a snowstorm in the dead of night. I had no sooner got out of the car in waste deep water when a guy had stopped to see if he could help. I had a rope I fumbled for in the pitch black darkness, and actually had to go under the water to attach it to the rear axle of my car. He pulled me out on the side of the freeway; I’d unhooked the rope, said thanks and watched him drive off and I don’t think even 15 minutes had passed.

Thank God he’d stopped. It had all but almost seemed practiced or orchestrated I thought. That couldn’t have gone off any better if a scene for a movie was being performed and we all knew what to do, but it hadn’t been practiced at all. It was impromptu.

Before I could put my blinker on a cop pulled up behind me and put his lights on with no idea what had happened. He did notice I was drenched in the driver’s seat and while it wasn’t alcohol he smelt things must have smelled a little swampy.

He cussed me out for driving too fast for the weather condition and I just sat there thinking to myself this it’s kind of funny to be cussed out for driving 35 mph on a freeway. I agreed with him and was cleared to go and thanked him for my lecture which although hard I did notice the truth of. I thought about the man who had stopped and saved me from a $500 towing bill and maybe a ticket or a fine for littering the highway if the cop had got there 5 minutes earlier.

I was so grateful. While these are dramatic, there are thousands of times I’ve recognized I was at the right place at the right time, and others were to. Gratefulness to the people showing up at just the right time is certainly one way to look at it with appreciation and gratitude. Realizing the Spirit of God that influences people in directions to help you at just the right time is another reason to get down on your knees every night and thank the Lord for all your many blessings.

If you can’t imagine my receiving that kind of help from that man pulling over and pulling my vehicle out of the icy mud, snow and water in the black of night without my thanking him, you also will understand there was a Spirit which influenced him to make that choice at that exact flashing second of time in the hellish circumstances. I’m sure he could have been on his way to wherever he was going with a lot less trouble than stopping.

My gratitude would be sorely and painfully missed without a full recognition of that appreciation and recognition to God in a prayer of gratitude for the Spirit which called to that man to be my angel and stop.

I find a great deal of treasure in joy and happiness lending a hand where I can and when you find yourself in those circumstances where God has chosen you to help someone isn’t it amazing?! It doesn’t really matter how rich you are, or how big of house you live in, what position you have in the world ladder, or how pretty or talented you are God can choose you to be an instrument in his hands to help someone where ever you are.

Being an instrument or angel in God’s hands will bring you great happiness and joy in this life. When you stop what you’re doing, and give your life or time to someone, a great joy comes to you. That joy is God’s love to you in his employment as an angel of mercy.

Keep your eyes open and trust in that spirit which teaches truth or prompts you to do good works in perilous times and amazing joy and happiness can come to you wherever you are. There are many of God’s children needing a hand and you can be the angel that God has sent. I know God is always on time and shows up in the time of need. No doubt about it God has real angels that fly and are not of this world, but what is equally astounding is the great joy that we can have in his employment here on Earth simply recognizing the prompting of the Spirit or Angels of God unseen; being an angel is just as nice as receiving one.

In John 14:16 Jesus says in verse 14, “ And I will pray the Father, and he shall give you another Comforter, that he may abide with you forever; v17 Even the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it seeth him not, neither knoweth him: but ye know him; for he dwelleth with you, and shall be in you. V18 I will not leave you comfortless; I will come to you.”

John 15:10 “As the Father hath loved me, so have I loved you: continue ye in my love. Vs10 If ye keep my commandments ye shall abide in my love; even as I have kept my Father’s commandments, and abide in his love. Vs11 These things have I spoken unto you, that my joy might remain in you, and that your joy might be full. Vs.12 This is my commandment, That ye love one another, as I have loved you.”

Sincerely,
Cody Robert Judy
P.S. Happy Birthday yesterday Mom.

Wednesday, February 19, 2014

LOSING THE LADIES- Can the USA Recover?

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The second update today, mostly because this post has to do with the "Ladies", I want to give Robyn Wright a shout out today for what she said that Glenn Beck also reiterated on his broadcast this morning.

In her research for House of Cards she mentioned how sleezy Washington DC had really become, and specifically mentioned what a political-sex-trade-for-info place D.C. was stating media correspondents were regularly sleeping with their contacts for info she learned from her research on House of Cards. This is just testimonial evidence of the slime in the sewer, how sad not standing up for principles has become, but mostly how compromised the media has become losing their value along the way. This certainly is in dire need of being restored, but I want to thank Robyn her very brave comment. Truth is not always easy to admit but it certainly does set us free and lightens the load.

LOSING THE LADIES- Can the USA Recover?
The family unit is the core of any successful society, so I think its worth addressing as a core issue politically. Of course we've made some mistakes, but that doesn't prevent us from learning from them making our weaknesses strengths through a little more wisdom and understanding.

Somethings been on my mind and I've been thinking about it for awhile like a little chipmunk you'd watch on the fence post not quite knowing what to do with it. I've had a powerful observation point in a study some might think I'm not qualified to give any expertise upon, but as I've been observing Honey, no one is giving you good advice on a top to bottom self recognition of your character.

I did a little research project called," Why are divorced women losers?". Guaranteed if you google those words the majority of answers you're going to get back are coming from 'women' who are generating an income on 'Divorced Women' from some field they call themselves experts in, and the majority of them are looking from a perspective of your being a loser simply based on who fairs better coming out of a 'Divorce' financially, a year or four years after a divorce rather than focusing on the weakness of your character.

You see those highlighted words, those aren't just highlights of words, those are reading assignments. Here's the advice of 10 year professional divorce coach Claudia Broome in an example of what I'm saying, " “Women can’t bury their heads in the sand and pretend that divorce won’t happen to them. They must prepare for the worst case scenario and hope for the best case! They must do what it takes to protect themselves and they must let go of their idealism believing that they will be married forever. Women must not quit their jobs to stay at home with the children until they they have a post-nup in place.“

What's the point of my telling you something you don't want to hear, or worse yet thinking perhaps a lot less of me in hearing? Well, in one word, "Happiness". Whose your "Divorce Coach"? Is she a women that understands you so well? You know what I'm mean 10 to 1 all those 'little sayings' flying around on facebook are generated by women about how "he" 'should be' and 'what's wrong with him'posted by women who are not self reflecting anything but 'negativity', whining,disgruntled un-lady like qualities of character.

Lots of advice out there by women on how to be a gentlemen, problem is they aren't gentlemen, and your right I will never be a lady. So why should you take any advice from me? Well, any man who can school a women on bras you might want to listen to just a little, and I do have a psychology degree if you must know.

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To that, I came across some good advice from a Doctor, but it wasn't generated just for women, but I think its really good advice for them:


If your going to find character in a man, you have first got to be able to identify it, and what better way then to identify it in yourself? So, you've decided to enter the business world and become a tycoon. Good for you, but now your faced with another dilemma right? Do you know what that is? Have you ever heard of "Power Divorces"?

Wow! What a surprise to find out “High-earning, professional women are the big losers in the divorce courts", and here's another professional, Brooke Kroeger whose going to tell you why”. The bottom line is when you get married and are successful, it works both ways, as far as the word 'half', or what Brooke called "legal hijinks for women". “‘ My husband gets part of this?’ is a typical question,”; “And the answer is yes.” The best recognition in the article reflects, “But it’s also unromantic to get a divorce.”.

Complaining is synonymous with failure, and guess what? Failure is associated with 'filing for a divorce' and guess whose doing the most of it? Its the same sex whose doing much more of the complaining in the first place. Ok, why not? Let's show you from another expert Cathy Meyer whose going to tell us, "Why Most Divorces are Filed by Women".

So, the answer if you were to become financially successful and independent as a women is the same advice you hate when it's being proposed by a man, " pre- or post-nuptial agreement ", because if someone loved you they wouldn't want one right? Well, the shoe fits on the other foot as, 'If you love him/her, it shouldn't matter' because your going to be together forever right?

Indeed fair minded people understand that marriage is indeed a agreement, and as it goes when its split its a financial agreement so why wouldn't you consider it going into the marriage, when both of you are going to consider it applicable as such if you fly out of it?

But that's not what I want to address in this article. I want to address the character traits mostly associated with divorce. If we don't address those character flaws in you how are you ever going to be successful, which is what I think a "Coach", or "Councilor" ought to be advising. Of course many won't seek counseling for one reason or the other, but the biggest reason maybe someone 'wants' to go to counseling in the 'hopes' of being proved 'right' and he should change 'his' ways...warm?

Two thirds of divorces are in fact initiated by women. That's an incredible number admitting failure in a marriage vow that states : " to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life."

So maybe we could figure this out together; self discovery is always the best way to change. What are the character traits needed by both sexes to be true to someone in good times and in bad times, in sickness and in health, and to love someone and honor them all the days of your life?

Its interesting in the study related in the above referenced article "Verbal Abuse", and "Emotional Neglect" are listed as the biggest reasons listed for women to file a divorce between the ages of 40 and 79.

"Physical abuse is easily identified. There is no doubt, once you have been hit, that you have been physically abused. You don’t second guess yourself because the bruises and scars are visible evidence that abuse has taken place. Verbal abuse is different. The damage is internal, there are no physical bruises or scars, just a wounded spirit and sense of self-esteem."

Do you remember "Stick and Stones may brake my bones but names and faces will never hurt me?" Of course unless you let them. No one can take away your self esteem unless you let them. That doesn't mean you have to get even, or let it sink in. That's always your choice. The best advice I received about 'verbal abuse' is 'let it run of your back like water runs off a ducks back". I've found it very necessary and useful advice

"Emotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of intimacy fills our souls and takes away our loneliness."

Now when reading those would you guess they were written by a women, because I'm not sure 'emotional intimacy' would be written like that from a man's perspective, but I do know women can identify with it. So, how do I know women could identify with that is a good question, but the better one is why don't women understand that's not the definition for a man? I mean, in a hetrosexual question are you marrying a man or a women?

In honoring a man wouldn't it be more successful for you if you understood his perspective? How does this not involve becoming a "Lady" anymore? You want a "Gentleman", isn't it a pretty well understood theory that to earn one, you have to become the other? So, whose teaching our little girls to be "Ladies", for I see a whole lot of divorced Mom's teaching their sons how to be 'Gentleman'.

I'm not sure of the personal lives of these women I've quoted, but I do know I've been through three divorces and they were all filed first by the female/wife. I also remember I was the one who asked or proposed marriage to them. I've lost three estates, that's not a successful marital or financial record by any means. I have a life-long male friend. We're the same 48 years of age. He's never been married and just last week he was saying to me, there is one word that has prevented me from getting married; "Half".

Well, he doesn't mess around with pinning it down, but at first glance you'd say he's worried about losing his finances right? There is a deeper problem though. Let's go deeper then even your second guess, 'selfishness', right? Yes, lets go to the heart of it "Trust".

Now when women think of a 'trust issue' what's the brain teaser flying around in your head? He's a 'cheater' right? When a man thinks of a 'trust issue' what's the brain teaser more often? Whose doing better five years after the marriage is dissolved if neither have married up the financial chain? The "Trust" for a man is indeed the "Bank", shall we call it "The Family Bank & Trust".

You know there's books that could be written and are written, but the real point I want to make is really a question. How can a women help ease the 'trust uneasiness' of a guy in the understood qualities of a 'Lady'? Buried deep is understanding the differences in sexes in a real general aspect of testosterone, the majority of which has been given to the man in the order of "The Family Bank & Trust".

Women who are not "Ladies" don't understand in the slightest that "jealousy' while painful is quite a temporary while it lies in ignorance. The advice from women in the 1800's was quite different then the advice in the 21st Century, but has that advice really been the best financial advice? Leave because your heart broken he's had an affair?

What part of the trust was broken when he had an affair "Ladies"? A Lady provides every physical need for her Gentleman, because she understands her own "jealousy" does not help increase the bank, and simultaneously‎ understands that testosterone is worth a lot more sticking with him through an affair that your honoring rather than allowing it to deplete and ruin. Allowed to fester jealousy an insatiable thirst that will push a marriage into a bankruptcy or divorce.

Communication is indeed the 'key'. Ladies know how to find out what her man really wants and then to go about providing that. When you provide that kind of 'security' to a man, your worth and value is certainly unprecedented among women. If a man doesn't see that he really is blind. What I'm saying is if you can figure out as a "Lady" how to remove the reasons for a divorce, don't you think your marriage is going to last longer?

Traditionally, a women now days seeks the instant satisfaction of filing divorce. Generally that involves a lack of patience. Patience is a virtue or character trait. Understanding phases everyone goes through and comes out of is a part of being 'understanding' and 'wise'. Again these are character traits of a "Lady". Whose teaching these out of all the Divorce Coaches?

My Mom divorced my Dad when I was four years old. She was a professional women, that had no idea or clue what she was doing to her children in that decision. It was all about 'herself' and 'changing' and 'showing' him. Did she have any idea she was wiping out her children's inheritance for a life-time of work at the time she was filing? No, she didn't, but she does now.

While in todays world the reasons for a divorce have been coached and manipulated by those who stood to gain financially from divorce, lawyers, divorce coaches, even councilors, it is very rare that the character of a "Lady" is respected and honored by all those giving advice.

This has made the value of a real "Lady" something men have almost lost hope in. Indeed, the character traits involved in the following verses describe what all women need to become "Ladies". Why would any women read the following and think it wasn't for her? While this was written quite some time ago, it seems just as true today, and the failures of filing for divorce are easily seen as a lack of honor for 'principles' much more than not being honored. Honor is earned through a life of 'principles', so go out an earn what you think your worth. It really is up to you and what you can show of yourself being a "Lady". When that is held in front of your vision your self esteem is not so shallow but grows deep as a fresh rewarding well of eternal principles.

You've heard it said a little faith can move mountains, well, a women who is a "Lady" can move a man over great distances. Ask yourself where is that advice on how to become and be a "Lady" and where would you go to find such?

Proverbs 31:10-31
10b A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. (self esteem rising as your appreciated for what?)

11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. (Trust in the Family Bank based in Principles)

12 She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. (She doesn't gossip or back bite him with anyone, and never would think of stabbing in the back with her mouth. She's true to him)

13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. (Humm.. looks like she can still be a professional and work??

14 She is like the merchant ships,bringing her food from afar.

15 She gets up while it is still night;she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. (If you don't have help in the house cleaning etc., because your poor whose fault is that? What do you have to give that's no skin off your nose?)

16 She considers a field and buys it;out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. (Wow,she's successful in her own so much she's got a little extra to do something for an increase for her family and the Family Bank & Trust)

17 She sets about her work vigorously;her arms are strong for her tasks (Looks like the Gym isn't excluded or keeping in shape)

18 She sees that her trading is profitable,and her lamp does not go out at night. ( Love isn't something that slacks, is lacking in energy or has a headache, ideas to please or protect in a wise way are much easier when you open your arms to include rather then exclude.)

19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. ( Using your head and understanding you can't do it all, is not a downfall, its a wisdom in recognizing facts and getting the help you need)

20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. (this is always a wonderful thing to be able to do instead of hoarding with fear that have away of playing their hand out if you are'nt choosing the principles that breed success. Fear most always follows with failure.)

21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. ( Sounds like dressing nice is still in fashion. You don't have to dress poorly to be humble)

22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. (When you act like a Lady you dress like one and a man sure notices)

23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. (Character seems to attract character here)

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,and supplies the merchants with sashes. (Isn't this using your head and using your industriousness as a tool rather than a handicap?)

25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.(Interesting that clothing is referred here as character traits. How can you be clothed in 'strength' if your giving into the whims of 'jealousy'? How can dignity come to you if you haven't risen above the call of what most women might crack to because they didn't have the slightest idea of how to be a "Lady"? How can laughter come facing our weaknesses as we laugh at ourselves for silly tendencies that are petty while we are indeed recognizing the sort is increasing your strengths in every field you can possibly imagine?

26 She speaks with wisdom,and faithful instruction is on her tongue. ("Why would anyone get married?" said a great leader of women? Nancy Pelosi - A former Speaker of the House and a Representative? A shocking understanding of the happiness of a family which is the unit of any successful society she admits its because you found someone irresistible and that they had to get married.)

27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. (Being attentive to every need requires actually an open conversation of a man's real feelings which you need to be able to digest in fairness. Having it your way all the time isn't really fair right? Ignoring your husbands' feelings is eating the bread of idleness."

28 Her children arise and call her blessed;her husband also, and he praises her: ( The long term is in her sites as well as the short term and you consider this seriously, and find ways to overcome the insatiable negatives that will deprive you and your children of everything rewarding.)

29 “Many women do noble things,but you surpass them all.” (In the long haul, you find what is needed to make it work finding the honor you desire. That brings more self esteem which is a rich reward! Nothing easy is worth much, so honor yourself by honoring your vow.)

30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. (Honoring a women for being a "Lady" is very much an earned character that every women can become, and its within your grasps. Make it so with all your decisions. )

So, when was the last time you whispered in your spouses ear?
Sincerely,
Cody Robert Judy

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Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Perils and Pitfalls of the New Dating Scene & Debut of New Single "Winter Walk"



She’s Just Not a Keeper- Perils and Pitfalls of the New Dating Scene & Debut of New Single "Winter Walk"

Everyone says “There’s Plenty of Fish in the sea”, like you’re responsible for proving it, you’ve been thrust into the highly cynical singles ocean once again. It’s not like you haven’t tried to avoid it by not doing your share of proposing, (God knows my record shows 3 marriages and 3 divorces), but as with marriage divorces take two people so when one or the other partner calls it quits and your thrown back into the fishing pond, you might thank me for my advice.

Perhaps in the dating world I am now like one of those disgruntled customers at Wallmart returning something that was broken in the packages, or wasn’t to my liking for one reason or the other, but it seems to me there’s a lot more articles in the dating world about “finding Mr. Right” and recognizing his qualities then “Finding Ms. Right” and recognizing hers, which is why I decided to put a few thoughts down on the subject myself.

Ok, first things first “do your own inventory”. If you can dot our “I’s” and cross your own “T’s” as far as representing yourself well on a date meaning: 1)Your actually divorced; 2) You have a job; 3)Your not a psycho by the definition that harangued your X’s ; 4)You’re a gentlemen ; 5) You actually care about something else besides yourself; 6) You’ve showered and straightened yourself up and know how to reasonably dress; 7) You’ve made the effort in getting out; 8) found someone attractive; 9) you’ve actually got that first date behind you now; 10) let’s take a look in your fishing effort at what you actually have on your hook because not everything that wounds up on your hook is a keeper.

Like fishing, dating in your 30’s, 40’s can be very discouraging and while I don’t have any experience in dating in what will be my future decades, I can’t imagine it being much different than my own fishing experiences now -sometimes you get skunked and sometimes you bring home a nice catch. I can only really dish out my advice from my own experiences of which I am an expert and to some degree with my BA in Psychology, am an authority at the very least, to myself.

The Resume

I’ve been single now four years but I really haven’t dated much. Understanding that just getting through a divorce you didn’t actually file counts as “pre-existing condition” you are going to have to explain to your date sooner or later can be as painful as a trip to the Dentist who didn’t quite numb up that nerve under the molar he’s drilling on, as much as you would have appreciated.

It may be a little cliché, but time heals all wounds and when you can go out and speak well of your past, your X spouse, you might be getting close to being good company again. It’s also your right to reasonable expect the same from her. You know dog-gone well, she didn’t marry him because he was a jerk, never spent a dime on her, and was the equivalent of what you’d call “a bad dog”, because you and I both know God didn’t make a bad dog.

Beware of women who want too much of a resume, and don’t feel like you have to give your whole resume. I actually have a biography available at Amazon and Barnes & Noble, and I don’t think I’ve ever gone on a date with a woman who’s actually read it. Not judging someone by their past can be as important as not judging a book by its cover. Keeping painful things light and funny on a first few dates might take you some work, but if your date has turned into a counseling session and she’s in tears over “what was done to her” count it as a sign she needs a lot more of the healing time alone..alone …alone.

She’s a Gold Digger

Its not a stretch to say no one wants to be “liked” just for money., but it’s also not a stretch to say especially as we get older, that her attraction to you may have something to do with your ability to take care of her. I’ve met my share of gold diggers who want to see a 5 year history of tax returns and all your business records.

On the flip side, I’ve approached ladies who thought I was wealthy and seen a real disdain from them caused by a history of their own past marriages from husbands who thought they could buy them or have their way with them based on the fact they wanted “security”.

Of course all that glitters isn’t always gold and that is definitely true with a balance and an appreciation for what you do and what you pay for. Money is said to be the cause of 90% of divorces in one way shape or form, so while you’re paying I’m just saying, look for a balance in her and a genuine appreciation for your hard earned dough.

Paranoia will Destroy Ya

We have to remember that “security” to the female is the number one natural instinct all of her senses are geared around. 60% of all divorces are not filed by women who don’t come out on top or didn’t think it through and imagine how that war was going to be fought anyway before you had a clue.

With the internet dating map at every female fingertip, rest assured your past is not secret. Count on the fact she’s nosed around your past, your social networks, so feel free to do the same. Some guys think that’s taboo for some reason like it’s not fair, not being gentlemen, or being too intrusive. Believe me, when it comes to being ‘nosey’ if we did all we could do we still wouldn’t have mastered that game as she has. You’ve heard it said, “ Alls fair in love and war”, but guys are often still working with one arm tied behind their back when it comes to ‘love’ in the dating scene.
Chances are if she decided to go out with you more than one time she’s either using you as a meal ticket, or she’s actually got past your past and you have a good prospect to reel in.

In the new world of dating I’ve noticed some of the traditional trust has been shattered. Women much more prefer now days to “meet” someone at a restaurant rather than have you pick her up. While that may work for a first couple of meetings, if she keeps up on that you may be dealing with someone who’s so paranoid and delusional about her safety she has ‘trust’ issues that need professional counseling.

If she doesn’t trust herself, her detective skills on the internet, her own instincts when you’ve been a gentlemen obviously you’ve had a couple of successful encounters and conversations, you may have the KGB across from you at the table. Security never loosens up in the marriage it often tightens.

She was so busy looking for Mr. Incredible she forgot to be Incredible.

I recently went out with a gal who I thought was really nice. I was attracted to her and I was kind of trying to figure out where she was at. We’d had 3 dates where I had paid for drinks and nice meals and we both had plenty of time over a month to find out neither one of us was a texting stalker or anything like that.

I received a text from her to some question I’d asked that was interesting and told me a lot about her. She said she’d tried to figure a way to tell me in as short of an answer as she could think of. To answer my question without seeming crass and in a short summation o f her remarks she said she wasn’t just looking for “ordinary” or “ok” , but she was looking for “incredible” and had basically settled herself into being fine with being single until it came along. She was very interested in being taken care of and in someone who was loyal.

Of course who isn’t? The more important thing I begin to ask is, “ Was I “incredible” to her?”; and I came to the conclusion I wasn’t. I’d been on three dates, been a gentleman, paid for everything and she was eager to do more on the premise that she was ‘slow’ or in other words wasn’t a ‘slut’.

I came to the conclusion she was a meal-whore based on the fact that after all we had done together, all the past we had shared of each other’s lives, she had not initiated a single date or invite, never invited me over to cook or invited me to a meal if cooking wasn’t her forte. More than the aforementioned, the biggest factor leading to this conclusion was every engagement of communication was initiated by me. I never once received a single text from her out of the blue or out of that context. That was a big sign to me of hers that read “it’s my way or the highway”, to me.
Indeed it was a “one way road” I was paving for her. In her “quest” for incredible and not mediocre she was indeed forgetting to be anything but incredible by any stretch of the imagination and I finally just got tired of building and working so hard on my side of the road for her.

Sometimes guys are working so hard, paying for everything, opening doors, not expecting sex, and basically making sure the lady knows that you respect her as women so as to impress her that he’s not the “typical jerk” she divorced, they forget to stand still and “wait to be impressed”?

It’s not so nontraditional to cook a meal for a guy or just invite him over for a quiet evening to enjoy his company instead of his wallet. I call this a missing “Wow” feature because if she’s not equally trying to “Wow” you with something more than “make-up”, “hair and nails”, and “clothes” she heaps up as evidence of interest, you’re dealing with gas tank that always takes and doesn’t give much in return.

There are a lot of ‘takers’ in the single world of women, and the ‘giver’s’ are definitely rare. It kind of makes me miss the good ole days of Sati- Hawkins when the girl actually became clever in roping her date but it sure made you know she liked and appreciated you every bit as much as you did her. Marriage is terrible if it is a one way road all the time which is why most successful marriages never quit the courting process and why every time I was married I certainly never gave up on that part of it myself.

BEWARE of Deception

While the ladies might complain fiercely about their not being any “gentlemen” out there anymore, one of the biggest tragedies happening is plain old deception.

The biggest one I’ve found on dating sites is the tragedy of “the old picture”, or “one picture”. I recently arranged a meet n greet with a gal who had a really pretty face and had extended some effort in reaching out. I was suspicious she only had one picture though and my suspicions were confirmed when her admission to a few extra pounds turned out to be a whopping 250 pounds of extra overweight “Yea”!

Another ‘meet n greet’ I went on was incredibly mind blowing as I met my date who was at least 15 years older than her picture and her representation of age. That didn’t bother as much as her dating profile saying she didn’t smoke but witnessing her “stop smoking” program that lasted every 15 minutes.

Of course I could have run from both of these dates at the meeting place, but I chose to just embrace the experience as the bigger person, but I paid for it too. They both had wonderful personalities and I thoroughly enjoyed talking with them like I do any of my friends. The problem is I have friends who have been friends much longer then they had been ‘my friend’ and who are still waiting for me to buy rather than go stag, or Dutch, or whatever you wanna call ‘paying’ for your own meal.

These gals both had it figured out and their best answer to bolting without offering to pay half was, “they’d buy next time”. Of course it’s up to every guy’s own limitations as to how many of those he’ll go through and to what extent he’ll be that part of a “gentleman” that graciously pays for the meal.

Ownership & The Jealous Page

In several instances I’ve found a strange phenomenon taking place in the “dating scene” that is certainly not traditional or what I call the new “ownership” and “jealous page”. This is where the girl takes “ownership” of you after one date. Whatever her justification is the traditional “going out” stage, “getting engaged” stage, and “married stage” has been compressed like a zip disc.

Its quite a strange thing to understand in a women’s mind after one or two dates that your status has risen to the point of “husband” and you didn’t even get a chance to enjoy the ‘dating’ or ‘engagement’ stages of a relationship.
I often find that with these ladies are indeed, “easy come, easy go”, because all they have to do is see you going out with another girl, or posting a picture on your facebook of that “slut”, who you actually would consider inviting ice-skating on a date with her as a friend and she’s filed for divorce and won’t go out with you again.

How in the world will you ever come home from the office again without having bent the secretaries all over the desk, or how will you ever go to the grocery store without having done the bagger behind the meat counter with this lady?
Believe me, insecurity in the best looking women is still their ability to turn into a witch and screw you in ways you’d never dreamt of yet. One would hope that marriage actually meant more to a women then a ‘dog-collar’, but to this kind of a women, its just a tag of ownership rather than a mutual respect of each other’s needs.

There’s a million ways to sniff this out of a women, but once you catch a whiff of it keep in mind that can of “whoop-ass” is something that can bring down half your kingdom faster than the garbage man can pick up and empty trash cans. I’ve seen three of my kingdoms wiped out and the next time I get married it sure as heck won’t be because we plan on their being any reason under the sun that it’s predicated upon, because if there is a reason its predicated upon other then love, there’s a reason for it to come undone and I just as soon sit that marriage out.

In summation I’d like to just touch on a little story that has covered a lot of ground the last few days. Its about a Bishop who dressed up like a ‘Bum’ and had a professional make-up job done so he wasn’t recognized by his own congregation. I laughed a little about many asking him to leave or threatening to call the cops from his own Church.

It kind of reminded me of the story of Mel Dumar who lived just down the street from me as a kid who picked up Howard Hughes as a lowly hitch-hiker. So often today judgments are indeed made simply on the cover of the book, or the quickie news report that takes about one minute to read. Of course we have to make many ‘snap’ judgments in everyday life but rarely do those turn out to be the kind that pays off eternally.

At the risk of sounding again ‘cliché’ , beauty is not always skin deep and actions often speak louder than words. In the singles world what people write about themselves and the pictures they post on the internet, does not always represent the complete picture that is painted in the vibrant personal meeting over dinner, or in the picture God sees of us. Being ‘judged’ as having a bad cover without giving the book a good reading or a chance can lead to the biggest embarrassment of regret as people reflected and in tears recalled in that Church how they had treated that ‘bum’ or what words they had last spoke.

That LDS Bishop who dressed up in front of his own congregation and saw how ugly the superficial skin deep world was definitely received a testimony that beauty wasn’t skin deep and that beauty on the outside didn’t necessarily mean ‘ugly’ on the inside didn’t exist. That should challenge us all as Christians to look into the facts, read the good book, and pray for the understanding not to make decisions that will embarrass us in front of God later on, when the Lord’s disguise is removed and he reveals himself in each and every one of us. Reminds me of asking the Lord in Matt 25: 37-40 “When did we visit you in prison, when did we feed you, when did we give you drink or care for you in sickness?” and the Lord saying, “In as much as you have done it unto the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me”.

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On a personal Family note: Speaking of Perils and Pitfalls,I'd like to express my gratitude for your prayers as we learned today just about 1pm, that my Mom Ali Judy has just received news that her lymph node in her back has doubled in size the last 30 days. She went through a year of chemo therapy about 2 years ago and has been cancer free but it looks like its back. I'll post more about this later. In the mean time, well, its kind of a sad day for our family and I appreciate so much those who do send their prayers in our behalf. God Bless you and thank you for that.
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