Wednesday, February 19, 2014
LOSING THE LADIES- Can the USA Recover?
Just a little good news to share: Today approximately 1pm United States Representative Randy Neugebauer of the 19th District of Texas favorited a tweet I sent him with this referenced link: Dividing A Nation - The Republican Roll-Out as Birther Barrage Goes Mainstream. I replied to him how much I appreciated that "favoriting", (cept I think my phone got the closest word to it listed on my spell check..covorting..lol, I'm hoping he knew what I meant)my tweet continued, ' it means a lot to know there are Representatives who care for our U.S.C.'
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The second update today, mostly because this post has to do with the "Ladies", I want to give Robyn Wright a shout out today for what she said that Glenn Beck also reiterated on his broadcast this morning.
In her research for House of Cards she mentioned how sleezy Washington DC had really become, and specifically mentioned what a political-sex-trade-for-info place D.C. was stating media correspondents were regularly sleeping with their contacts for info she learned from her research on House of Cards. This is just testimonial evidence of the slime in the sewer, how sad not standing up for principles has become, but mostly how compromised the media has become losing their value along the way. This certainly is in dire need of being restored, but I want to thank Robyn her very brave comment. Truth is not always easy to admit but it certainly does set us free and lightens the load.
LOSING THE LADIES- Can the USA Recover?
The family unit is the core of any successful society, so I think its worth addressing as a core issue politically. Of course we've made some mistakes, but that doesn't prevent us from learning from them making our weaknesses strengths through a little more wisdom and understanding.
Somethings been on my mind and I've been thinking about it for awhile like a little chipmunk you'd watch on the fence post not quite knowing what to do with it. I've had a powerful observation point in a study some might think I'm not qualified to give any expertise upon, but as I've been observing Honey, no one is giving you good advice on a top to bottom self recognition of your character.
I did a little research project called," Why are divorced women losers?". Guaranteed if you google those words the majority of answers you're going to get back are coming from 'women' who are generating an income on 'Divorced Women' from some field they call themselves experts in, and the majority of them are looking from a perspective of your being a loser simply based on who fairs better coming out of a 'Divorce' financially, a year or four years after a divorce rather than focusing on the weakness of your character.
You see those highlighted words, those aren't just highlights of words, those are reading assignments. Here's the advice of 10 year professional divorce coach Claudia Broome in an example of what I'm saying, " “Women can’t bury their heads in the sand and pretend that divorce won’t happen to them. They must prepare for the worst case scenario and hope for the best case! They must do what it takes to protect themselves and they must let go of their idealism believing that they will be married forever. Women must not quit their jobs to stay at home with the children until they they have a post-nup in place.“
What's the point of my telling you something you don't want to hear, or worse yet thinking perhaps a lot less of me in hearing? Well, in one word, "Happiness". Whose your "Divorce Coach"? Is she a women that understands you so well? You know what I'm mean 10 to 1 all those 'little sayings' flying around on facebook are generated by women about how "he" 'should be' and 'what's wrong with him'posted by women who are not self reflecting anything but 'negativity', whining,disgruntled un-lady like qualities of character.
Lots of advice out there by women on how to be a gentlemen, problem is they aren't gentlemen, and your right I will never be a lady. So why should you take any advice from me? Well, any man who can school a women on bras you might want to listen to just a little, and I do have a psychology degree if you must know.
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To that, I came across some good advice from a Doctor, but it wasn't generated just for women, but I think its really good advice for them:
If your going to find character in a man, you have first got to be able to identify it, and what better way then to identify it in yourself? So, you've decided to enter the business world and become a tycoon. Good for you, but now your faced with another dilemma right? Do you know what that is? Have you ever heard of "Power Divorces"?
Wow! What a surprise to find out “High-earning, professional women are the big losers in the divorce courts", and here's another professional, Brooke Kroeger whose going to tell you why”. The bottom line is when you get married and are successful, it works both ways, as far as the word 'half', or what Brooke called "legal hijinks for women". “‘ My husband gets part of this?’ is a typical question,”; “And the answer is yes.” The best recognition in the article reflects, “But it’s also unromantic to get a divorce.”.
Complaining is synonymous with failure, and guess what? Failure is associated with 'filing for a divorce' and guess whose doing the most of it? Its the same sex whose doing much more of the complaining in the first place. Ok, why not? Let's show you from another expert Cathy Meyer whose going to tell us, "Why Most Divorces are Filed by Women".
So, the answer if you were to become financially successful and independent as a women is the same advice you hate when it's being proposed by a man, " pre- or post-nuptial agreement ", because if someone loved you they wouldn't want one right? Well, the shoe fits on the other foot as, 'If you love him/her, it shouldn't matter' because your going to be together forever right?
Indeed fair minded people understand that marriage is indeed a agreement, and as it goes when its split its a financial agreement so why wouldn't you consider it going into the marriage, when both of you are going to consider it applicable as such if you fly out of it?
But that's not what I want to address in this article. I want to address the character traits mostly associated with divorce. If we don't address those character flaws in you how are you ever going to be successful, which is what I think a "Coach", or "Councilor" ought to be advising. Of course many won't seek counseling for one reason or the other, but the biggest reason maybe someone 'wants' to go to counseling in the 'hopes' of being proved 'right' and he should change 'his' ways...warm?
Two thirds of divorces are in fact initiated by women. That's an incredible number admitting failure in a marriage vow that states : " to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love you and honor you all the days of my life."
So maybe we could figure this out together; self discovery is always the best way to change. What are the character traits needed by both sexes to be true to someone in good times and in bad times, in sickness and in health, and to love someone and honor them all the days of your life?
Its interesting in the study related in the above referenced article "Verbal Abuse", and "Emotional Neglect" are listed as the biggest reasons listed for women to file a divorce between the ages of 40 and 79.
"Physical abuse is easily identified. There is no doubt, once you have been hit, that you have been physically abused. You don’t second guess yourself because the bruises and scars are visible evidence that abuse has taken place. Verbal abuse is different. The damage is internal, there are no physical bruises or scars, just a wounded spirit and sense of self-esteem."
Do you remember "Stick and Stones may brake my bones but names and faces will never hurt me?" Of course unless you let them. No one can take away your self esteem unless you let them. That doesn't mean you have to get even, or let it sink in. That's always your choice. The best advice I received about 'verbal abuse' is 'let it run of your back like water runs off a ducks back". I've found it very necessary and useful advice
"Emotional intimacy is one of the most wonderful experiences we ever have. Nothing else really comes close to the experience of sharing our deepest thoughts and feelings with another, of being deeply seen and known, of sharing love, passion, laughter, joy, and/or creativity. The experience of intimacy fills our souls and takes away our loneliness."
Now when reading those would you guess they were written by a women, because I'm not sure 'emotional intimacy' would be written like that from a man's perspective, but I do know women can identify with it. So, how do I know women could identify with that is a good question, but the better one is why don't women understand that's not the definition for a man? I mean, in a hetrosexual question are you marrying a man or a women?
In honoring a man wouldn't it be more successful for you if you understood his perspective? How does this not involve becoming a "Lady" anymore? You want a "Gentleman", isn't it a pretty well understood theory that to earn one, you have to become the other? So, whose teaching our little girls to be "Ladies", for I see a whole lot of divorced Mom's teaching their sons how to be 'Gentleman'.
I'm not sure of the personal lives of these women I've quoted, but I do know I've been through three divorces and they were all filed first by the female/wife. I also remember I was the one who asked or proposed marriage to them. I've lost three estates, that's not a successful marital or financial record by any means. I have a life-long male friend. We're the same 48 years of age. He's never been married and just last week he was saying to me, there is one word that has prevented me from getting married; "Half".
Well, he doesn't mess around with pinning it down, but at first glance you'd say he's worried about losing his finances right? There is a deeper problem though. Let's go deeper then even your second guess, 'selfishness', right? Yes, lets go to the heart of it "Trust".
Now when women think of a 'trust issue' what's the brain teaser flying around in your head? He's a 'cheater' right? When a man thinks of a 'trust issue' what's the brain teaser more often? Whose doing better five years after the marriage is dissolved if neither have married up the financial chain? The "Trust" for a man is indeed the "Bank", shall we call it "The Family Bank & Trust".
You know there's books that could be written and are written, but the real point I want to make is really a question. How can a women help ease the 'trust uneasiness' of a guy in the understood qualities of a 'Lady'? Buried deep is understanding the differences in sexes in a real general aspect of testosterone, the majority of which has been given to the man in the order of "The Family Bank & Trust".
Women who are not "Ladies" don't understand in the slightest that "jealousy' while painful is quite a temporary while it lies in ignorance. The advice from women in the 1800's was quite different then the advice in the 21st Century, but has that advice really been the best financial advice? Leave because your heart broken he's had an affair?
What part of the trust was broken when he had an affair "Ladies"? A Lady provides every physical need for her Gentleman, because she understands her own "jealousy" does not help increase the bank, and simultaneously understands that testosterone is worth a lot more sticking with him through an affair that your honoring rather than allowing it to deplete and ruin. Allowed to fester jealousy an insatiable thirst that will push a marriage into a bankruptcy or divorce.
Communication is indeed the 'key'. Ladies know how to find out what her man really wants and then to go about providing that. When you provide that kind of 'security' to a man, your worth and value is certainly unprecedented among women. If a man doesn't see that he really is blind. What I'm saying is if you can figure out as a "Lady" how to remove the reasons for a divorce, don't you think your marriage is going to last longer?
Traditionally, a women now days seeks the instant satisfaction of filing divorce. Generally that involves a lack of patience. Patience is a virtue or character trait. Understanding phases everyone goes through and comes out of is a part of being 'understanding' and 'wise'. Again these are character traits of a "Lady". Whose teaching these out of all the Divorce Coaches?
My Mom divorced my Dad when I was four years old. She was a professional women, that had no idea or clue what she was doing to her children in that decision. It was all about 'herself' and 'changing' and 'showing' him. Did she have any idea she was wiping out her children's inheritance for a life-time of work at the time she was filing? No, she didn't, but she does now.
While in todays world the reasons for a divorce have been coached and manipulated by those who stood to gain financially from divorce, lawyers, divorce coaches, even councilors, it is very rare that the character of a "Lady" is respected and honored by all those giving advice.
This has made the value of a real "Lady" something men have almost lost hope in. Indeed, the character traits involved in the following verses describe what all women need to become "Ladies". Why would any women read the following and think it wasn't for her? While this was written quite some time ago, it seems just as true today, and the failures of filing for divorce are easily seen as a lack of honor for 'principles' much more than not being honored. Honor is earned through a life of 'principles', so go out an earn what you think your worth. It really is up to you and what you can show of yourself being a "Lady". When that is held in front of your vision your self esteem is not so shallow but grows deep as a fresh rewarding well of eternal principles.
You've heard it said a little faith can move mountains, well, a women who is a "Lady" can move a man over great distances. Ask yourself where is that advice on how to become and be a "Lady" and where would you go to find such?
10b A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. (self esteem rising as your appreciated for what?)
11 Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. (Trust in the Family Bank based in Principles)
12 She brings him good, not harm,all the days of her life. (She doesn't gossip or back bite him with anyone, and never would think of stabbing in the back with her mouth. She's true to him)
13 She selects wool and flax and works with eager hands. (Humm.. looks like she can still be a professional and work??
14 She is like the merchant ships,bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;she provides food for her family and portions for her female servants. (If you don't have help in the house cleaning etc., because your poor whose fault is that? What do you have to give that's no skin off your nose?)
16 She considers a field and buys it;out of her earnings she plants a vineyard. (Wow,she's successful in her own so much she's got a little extra to do something for an increase for her family and the Family Bank & Trust)
17 She sets about her work vigorously;her arms are strong for her tasks (Looks like the Gym isn't excluded or keeping in shape)
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,and her lamp does not go out at night. ( Love isn't something that slacks, is lacking in energy or has a headache, ideas to please or protect in a wise way are much easier when you open your arms to include rather then exclude.)
19 In her hand she holds the distaff and grasps the spindle with her fingers. ( Using your head and understanding you can't do it all, is not a downfall, its a wisdom in recognizing facts and getting the help you need)
20 She opens her arms to the poor and extends her hands to the needy. (this is always a wonderful thing to be able to do instead of hoarding with fear that have away of playing their hand out if you are'nt choosing the principles that breed success. Fear most always follows with failure.)
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household; for all of them are clothed in scarlet. ( Sounds like dressing nice is still in fashion. You don't have to dress poorly to be humble)
22 She makes coverings for her bed; she is clothed in fine linen and purple. (When you act like a Lady you dress like one and a man sure notices)
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,where he takes his seat among the elders of the land. (Character seems to attract character here)
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,and supplies the merchants with sashes. (Isn't this using your head and using your industriousness as a tool rather than a handicap?)
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come.(Interesting that clothing is referred here as character traits. How can you be clothed in 'strength' if your giving into the whims of 'jealousy'? How can dignity come to you if you haven't risen above the call of what most women might crack to because they didn't have the slightest idea of how to be a "Lady"? How can laughter come facing our weaknesses as we laugh at ourselves for silly tendencies that are petty while we are indeed recognizing the sort is increasing your strengths in every field you can possibly imagine?
26 She speaks with wisdom,and faithful instruction is on her tongue. ("Why would anyone get married?" said a great leader of women? Nancy Pelosi - A former Speaker of the House and a Representative? A shocking understanding of the happiness of a family which is the unit of any successful society she admits its because you found someone irresistible and that they had to get married.)
27 She watches over the affairs of her household and does not eat the bread of idleness. (Being attentive to every need requires actually an open conversation of a man's real feelings which you need to be able to digest in fairness. Having it your way all the time isn't really fair right? Ignoring your husbands' feelings is eating the bread of idleness."
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;her husband also, and he praises her: ( The long term is in her sites as well as the short term and you consider this seriously, and find ways to overcome the insatiable negatives that will deprive you and your children of everything rewarding.)
29 “Many women do noble things,but you surpass them all.” (In the long haul, you find what is needed to make it work finding the honor you desire. That brings more self esteem which is a rich reward! Nothing easy is worth much, so honor yourself by honoring your vow.)
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,and let her works bring her praise at the city gate. (Honoring a women for being a "Lady" is very much an earned character that every women can become, and its within your grasps. Make it so with all your decisions. )
So, when was the last time you whispered in your spouses ear?
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